Getting your heart broken is one of the darkest, ugliest, deepest things you'll go through. It's not telling someone else "good bye", it's the other person saying the good bye and us holding on to the idea that it's not true. Holding on to the idea that maybe tomorrow you'll be back together and the nightmare was just that, a nightmare. So when you open your eyes you'll get a cute good morning text and you're with your other half. That you have someone that loves the darkest parts of you more than yourself and that everything is going to be ok because you're with the love of your life. Someone important in your life going away is quite hard.
Well, heartbreaks are something no one wants to go through, but most of us do.
My question is, if heartbreaks are so difficult and so dark, why do artists romanticize it? Why do we write about it, do a piece of art about it, and show it to the rest of the world? Not just that, we show it to others in a romantic way. Like if death will give you flowers while it's taking you away from your love ones.
I do not know about other artists, but I'll tell you why I do it. I don't do it because heartbreaks are pretty or because wanting to die is poetic. There are two reasons of why I do it.
First, even though I'm quite a pessimist and always expect the worst about most situations, I have a tiny bit of hope in things getting better. I try to create my definition of dark beauty. Something about going through difficult things in life that makes us stronger and a better person. You know, something like after a huge storm there is a rainbow but the storm still has it's shinning moments. Quite corny but quite true. I do not romanticize the heartbreak itself, I romanticize the idea of someone broken that wants his pieces back together and maybe in a future that will happen. The idea of everything getting better, the idea of light at the end of the tunnel.
My second reason is, doing a piece of art about something traumatic/important of your life appeals not only to your feelings, but to others'. Not only in photography, but in music, painting, writing, etc. it's my way of trying to tell others that they're not alone because I know what feeling lonely is like and do not want anyone to go through that. I want to make a strong connection with the audience with something more than just being "beautiful" or "creepy". So, maybe the final piece it's not romantic itself, but the others and I think of it that way, because it goes through our skin and into our hearts.
I'm not the kind of guy who writes about something and post it online, more when it comes to deep stuff, but since I started my blog, I thought I could bring this things that are quite important to me in discussion. Some may agree with me on these theme, some may not and its just ok. If you have any idea/opinion, let me know.
Happy Valentine's Day,
P.S. If you have a partner, hope you had a great day, if not, hope you had a great day! Love is not something we only give to others, we can give it to ourselves too.